The God of Daddy Issues

I understand the pain of growing up with a father in the household but physically and emotionally absent from the home. When I came to God, I accepted Him as my savior.  I would be years away from accepting Him as my Father.

Savior.

Friend.

Peace.

Strength.

Protector.

These are just a few of the attributes of our God.  The list can go on with many other descriptions.  For many, accepting most of these characteristics are easy.  What is difficult is the simple attribute of God being our Father.

God the Father.

We hear it so much we become aquatinted with the title way before we become familiar with the person.  God is our father.

I understand the pain of growing up with a father in the household but physically and emotionally absent from the home.  When I came to God, I accepted Him as my savior.  I would be years away from accepting Him as my Father.

Everyone has their own daddy issues. Daddy issues prevent us from having a deeper relationship with our Father.  There is a poem called “Children Learn What They Live” by Dr. Dorothy Law Nolte.  It is very familiar in counseling circles which can easily relate to walking with God as our Father.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

If any of the experiences happened to you, you could be living with a gap between you and God which prevents the intimate walk He desires with you. If your father was distant, God appears distant.  If he was abusive, your perspective of God is being abusive, abandoning sacred trust, and/or hard to please.  We bring our attitudes of our earthly father into our relationship with God.  Until we realized this, our hearts close the door to the Fatherhood of God.

The good news is God knows this and still loves us anyway. His love does not change or lessen.  His grace still abounds and His love endures forever though your love may not.

As an adoptive father, I have loved my children when the love reciprocated did not measure to the love given.  I accepted it.  If I accepted it, how much more does our loving and patient Father accepts it.  He understands the pain and God patiently waits for time both in space and of His presence to fill the hurt, absence, disappointment, and abuse you endured.

As a father to many, I love to give gifts – really good gifts.  I love to get my kids exactly what they desire and then add to it to make it even sweeter.  One day, God revealed Himself to me by reminding me of the verse Jesus shared when He was speaking about our Heavenly Father:

So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him. Matthew 7:11                       (some words purposefully embolden)

God is not up in Heaven ready to smite you.  You are His child.  You are His masterpiece.  You are His creation.  He formed you, put you together, and placed His breath in you.  God, from the time you were born, has kept His eye on you because you are the apple of His eye. Every step you have taken has been ordered by Him. He is the Father who is always there.  He is Father who has always seen what you have gone through. Daddy God is the God of bandaids who like to kiss boo-boos, put ointment on the bruises, and heal them all at the same time. He never sleeps nor slumbers so He can watch over you with His love.

He understands the pain. He desires to heal you beyond your pain and bring you to complete wholeness and healing.  Let the Daddy God of bandaids heal you today and you two begin a fresh new Father/child relationship.

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