Need to Forgive? Try This. . .

Forgiveness is the simple act of letting go yet simple is not a word anyone would ascribe to it. Letting go is the process of releasing yourself from the responsibility of holding back another for their acts.

Jesus said for us in His example prayer for us to follow what we call the Lord’s prayer by saying “forgive us our debts as we forgive those who are indebted to us.”  Yet, we hold on hoping by us doing that we may gain retribution for the act done against us.

Forgiveness is not fair. It doesn’t add up. It doesn’t equate but in God’s economy and in God’s Kingdom it is paramount in benefiting you.

It is important to forgive because not forgiving only hurts the person unwilling to forgive. The amount of people are endless of who I have talked with over the years who spend sleepless nights unable to forgive a person.  While they are unable to sleep, the person they need to forgive sleeps soundly every night. The pain, the anguish, and the bitterness rages while unforgiveness abounds. The Bible says:

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32

Get rid of the bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, and slander. Get healthy again and let them go.

We should forgive because we will need forgiveness again. Reiterating the previous verse, we should forgive each other just as Christ forgave us. (Ephesians 4:32) Jesus said if we forgive men when they sin against us, our heavenly Father will also forgive us. Then He said, if we do not forgive men of their sins, our Father will not forgive our sins. (Matthew 6:14-15) I don’t know about you but I need forgiveness on an ongoing basis.  Forgiveness sucks until you forgive and then when you forgive, freedom rushes in.

So we need to forgive but we don’t feel like forgiving. Forgiving seems to be an easy way out for the other party.  Forgiving them appears it allows them to get away with what that have done. You know you need to forgive. You see the importance of forgiving but what if you don’t want to forgive? Try this.

Beginning today, let’s try to forgive. Simply, try. Make an attempt or effort to forgive the person, group of people, or entity which hurt you. Trying allows you to pass or fail without anything counted against you.

This trial period is between you and God and not the other party or parties.  Between you and God, you let Him know how today you have no desire to forgive them. You no desire to let them go but today you are going to try to position your heart and mind toward forgiveness.

Tomorrow, discover how you feel and begin the trial process again. Try the next day to talk to God about the specific pain and hurt. Like the Great Physician Jesus is, let Him know exactly where the pain is, where it began, and partner with Him on the right prescription of forgiveness which can be applied to it.

Keep partnering with God and watch how you and Him can gradually change your heart to forgive those who hurt you.  Discover how easy it is to let them go when you partner with God and like a great Father, He tells you it will be alright. And then comes the peace. Feel the peace of forgiving those who have caused great pain and experience the peace which only the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ, can provide.

But for today, simply try.


For other post which accompanies this post well, read

Bound by Bitterness?

6 Things Bitter People Do

Empathy: Seeing It From Their Eyes

The Most Liberating Verse of My Year and It Could Be Your’s Too

5 Keys to Living Victoriously

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